Charlie & I Talk About Our Love Often

Charlie & I talk about our love often. This is how we refrain from becoming burnt out from our relationship. Our relationship is separate from him or me. It is it’s own separate entity.

We do not expect our relationship to take care of itself- our relationship also needs a lot of love, care & compassion.

We cannot expect it to thrive on its own and you cannot expect your relationship to thrive on its own. So let’s talk about being burnt out by your relationship.

It shows up as stress.
It shows up as bickering.
It shows up as loneliness & coexisting.

You cannot simply coexist in your relationship for very long.

So what do we do??

•We *try* to remember that we are a team and that we both want this to work.

•We remember that we are not attempting to hurt the other person-

ie. If Charlie forgot to put the dishes away after I asked him 2 times… its not because he is spiteful. Its because he forgot. He then accepts being asked a 3rd time knowing that I am not trying to annoy him but that this is a household talk that does need to get done.

•We accept that it is a fluid process- we will screw up & be mean to each other or hurt the other person. This does not mean anything is broken but it does mean that there is something to look at there.

Relationships are complicated and require attention from both parties.

You have to advocate for yourself. You have to advocate for your relationship.

Do you feel yourself getting stressed out by your relationship?

What is it that gets you?? 👇🏼👇🏼Share in the comments!

Love,
Marisa